Don't Worry, Be Happy
Article
Geetha S.
Is there a single person among us who doesn't like to be happy? The
answer is of course NO. No one likes to be sad and unhappy. It's against
human nature. But still why is it that we get upset so very often for
unnecessary reasons? It's very common that we get upset for no particular
reason sometimes. When someone asks you why you are upset, you say "I
have no idea but I'm just unhappy."
In this world of ours no one ever takes the effort to change
oneself. We are always trying to change the other person to suit our needs ,
so that we may be happy. But one thing to remember is that you can never
become happy unless you change yourself. Happiness is not something we
can get from outside. Its something you have to look for within
yourself, and the only way we can do that is to put in a little effort to
change some of our ways. Just try out these ten simple points and see how
you can transform your life.
1) LEARN TO BE CONTENDED:
Are you satisfied with whatever you have? The answer is probably NO.
Most of us can never be satisfied with what we have. We always grip about
what we don t have. In this process we fail to see what we do have and
we are not able to enjoy it. This is what makes us miserable. Let's take
an example here of a middle class family. They have sufficient income
and a reasonably good house but when they see their rich neighbor with a
huge mansion they think, "Why is it that I don t have a huge mansion
and a Mercedes car and etc etc." For a change why don't you try to be
contended with what you do have? In this way you will be able to enjoy
whatever little you possess.
2) STOP DAYDREAMING:
What I mean here is to stop building castles in the sky. Most of us don't live in this world. We live in our own dream world. We have all
pleasant dreams of a happy and prosperous future life with loads of money
and comforts. Well, it's time to wake up. You dream so much and build a
heaven for yourself but reality may be surprisingly different and not so
pleasant. A person who lives in dreamland can never accept anything
unfavorable happening to him. If you don't have any expectations you don't have any disappointments. So stop expecting and learn to take life as
it comes. That's the true sport of living.
3) LIVE IN THE PRESENT:
As mentioned above, we all are either living in our dreamland of how
the future should be or we are always brooding over whatever happened in
the past. We blame ourselves for our past mistakes day in and day out
and our life becomes hell. Its OK to make mistakes . No one is perfect
and there isn't a single person in this world who hasn't made mistakes.
The past is dead so why do you still have to sit and brood over it? The
future is uncertain. Tomorrow doesn't exist unless we step into tomorrow, so don't worry about the future. What is clear and in front of you is
the present. If you don't live well in the present, how can you ever
think of being happy in the future? So learn to live in the present.
4) NEVER MIND CRITICISM:
Some people are over sensitive and burst into sobs for any small
reason. If a person criticizes you there is no reason to raise a storm. If
you feel that there is some meaning in what he said then try to change
yourself for the better. Or else don't bother. If we stand to argue and
fight we are wasting our own energy and peace of mind. If you hold ill
feelings against others, it doesn't affect them in any way but only you
suffer from mental exertion. So why give a chance for others to make you
unhappy? People can affect you only as much as you allow them to. So
don't give them a chance for that.
5) NEVER MIND MISTAKES AND FAILURES:
We all know the famous saying Failures are the stepping stones to
success . You may fail in something you do but its not the end of the
world. Failures are a part of life and definitely stepping stones. Unless we
make mistakes we don't learn anything , we become stagnant like trees
and plants. If we make mistakes we learn from it and try not to repeat
it in future.
6) SAY GOODBYE TO ANGER AND JEALOUSY:
The green eyed monster is one of our greatest enemy. When you are
jealous of someone you are miserable and can't tolerate even meeting that
person. This affects you and only you. It doesn't harm the other person in
any way. Only you suffer because of your mental state. Anger is another
enemy. We gain less and lose more by anger. When we are angry we often
say things which we regret later on, and once you say something you
can't take it back. So try to control your temper and try not to be jealous
of anyone because in both cases only you are the loser.
7) BE CONFIDENT:
Being confident doesn't cost you anything. Most of us feel don't feel confident
and consider ourselves to be good for nothing. This attitude will get
you nowhere in life. Try to be confident. Just remember that you are in
no way inferior to anyone so then why shouldn't you be confident? Self
confidence comes from within you when you are (1) positive (2) optimistic
(3) never pessimistic.
8) DON T BE LAZY:
Don't be lazy. Always have high spirits to work and do something
creative. Be active. One who is inactive is dead. If not anything else,
at least try to read some good books. Reading good books really helps to
change your life. Of course it also depends on what kind of books you read.
But try to be engaged in some kind of work. We all know that An idle
mind is the devil's workshop.
9) DEVELOP INTEREST AND ENJOY YOUR WORK:
Very often when we even think of work our blood pressure starts rising!
Most of the time the feeling of burden of work is more than the work
itself. Try to develop more interest and enjoy your work. Then you won't
even feel there is a burden.
10) KEEP A CLEAN AND PURE MIND:
A mind free of fears, tensions, obsessions, cravings etc is a pure
mind. A pure and clean mind means mental hygiene. Physical and mental
health is necessary for good health and better living.
So let's start living life the way it should be lived. We can start
right from today. We have nothing to lose and lots to gain by being
happy. So DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY!
Don't Worry, Be Happy© COPYRIGHT 2004 Geetha S.
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08/20/04
